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Life’s Transitions: On Becoming Your Passion

In About Me, Career Transitions on 04/07/2012 at 12:48

Me in the uniform shop purchasing my first Chef’s uniform

Becoming one’s passion is often and unfortunately the road less traveled.  Regardless of nationality or cultural upbringing, many people come from environments which are never open to them making drastic changes in their lives.  One such change is the change of chosen vocation.

When you spend years if not most or all of your adult life doing one thing, in my cased 25 years in the Information Technology industry, it’s difficult for others to see you in another light.  Well I say to hell with that.  I’ve never been one for fitting in a pre-defined box or a box that makes others comfortable.  I’m all about doing what you want to do in your life as long as it does no harm to others.

When it comes to making career changes, they tend to affect people in many different ways.  I recall years ago in Atlanta when I would host various parties and events at my home I would prepare the entire meal for everyone to enjoy.  Often the assumption would be that my wife cooked the meals or that they were catered.

I would then say, “no, I cooked it all. It’s my passion.  It’s what I do”.  Then they would turn to my wife in disbelief and ask her, “did he actually cook all of this?”  and she would respond, “yep, all I did was help put it on the table. He loves cooking. That’s what he does”

Curry Ginger Strawberry Spinach Salad with Grilled Salmon and Raspberry Vinaigrette.

Anyone who had been to my home on a regular basis already knew I could get down in the kitchen.  Many would even suggest that I should start a restaurant of my own.  And over the years I have serious considered the restaurant business but always told myself not now.  I’ll do it later.  After roughly 10 years of putting it off my passion has caught up with me and I have wholeheartedly embraced it.

I am now a chef, soon to be restaurateur and the new kid on the block. Starting over is never easy but the time was now and Carpe Diem is my motto. So look for great things from me, being a Chef is seriously hard work. And since making my decision I have developed a new found respect for the people who prepare and serve us our food.

I will be training for the next year or so. Getting the proper Chefery, yes I made that up, pedigree before I open my own restaurant in DC. Stay tuned. And don’t forget to chase your passions and never let anyone tell you you can’t do it because you can.  Stay thirsty my friends.

FOR THE BOOKSHELF: Black Men: Obsolete, Single, Dangerous?

In About Me, Authors, Culture on 12/06/2012 at 19:30

Today I was friended on facebook by Haki Madhubuti formerly know as Don Lee.  When I posted on facebook that he accepted my friend request, I also indicated what a profound impact his poetry, prose, lectures and publishing company Third World Press had on me and many in my generations.

His writing is so prolific that it’s difficult to name one piece that is my favourite.  But when it comes to his works of prose I would have to say that this book, BLACK MEN: Obsolete, Single, Dangerous? had the most impact on me.  I typically reread it every two to three years or so just to see how apropos it is with contemporary times.

Suffice it to say, the book never gets old and unfortunately much of what he wrote 22 years ago remains relevant today.  I’d just like to take this time to suggest his works with all who read this blog.  Especially this book.

This is from his appearance on Def Poetry Jam:

I end by saying, thank you Brother Haki Madhubuti for the legacy of work he has left our world.  Thank you good sir.

Beauty In Full Bloom

In About Me, Consider This on 12/06/2012 at 15:27


Even when it rains one should always STOP to enjoy the beauty of a flower in full bloom. Enjoy.. 😉

Another Ode To Coffee

In About Me on 06/06/2012 at 07:45

I wrote a lil’song dis mornin’.  Wanna hear it, here it go. Sang along if ya know da wuerrds.

Oh I woke up this morning with my mind; And it was; Stayed on COFFEE; Woke up this morning with my mind; And it was stayed
Stayed on COFFEE ALMIGHTY; Woke up this morning with my mind; And it was stayed; Stayed on COFFEE; Hallelu hallelu, Hallelu hallelu, Hallelujah…

Awhahhhhhh, thank ya very much… Smile, laugh and make it a GREAT day folks.

23 years of Black Love: African boy + West Indian girl = Oluwatosin 6

In About Me, My Family on 28/05/2012 at 12:09

Mr. and Mrs. Oluwatosin at our eldest daughter Yejide’s college graduation

WOW!!!  Today marks our 23rd wedding anniversary.  That’s a very long time by today’s marital standards and I’m very happy to be able to say that I’ve been with this very special woman for all this time.  Since meeting each other we’ve been building family, doing our collective part for the health and well being of the Black community and watching our children grow and flourish in an environment of love.

And it’s that love, mutual respect and genuine like for one another that has kept us together.  We often reflect with one another at how special our family and what we have is to others.  People will often remark to us individually and as a couple how much they love our children and our family.

Our latest family photo at my daughter Yejide’s graduation from Howard University
(left-right: Amoye, Ifetayo, Yejide, Nioyonu, Ayinde and yours truly)

Those sentiments are not lost on us and they bring a certain joy to us knowing that our marriage inspires others.  Certainly there are distractions and forces that would attempt to come between what we have built but what marriages don’t have those issues.  Fortunately, the spirit of our ancestors, our real friends and our families will not ever allow that to happen.  In marriage there is a higher calling that transcends personal wants, desires and immaturity.

I see this more now than I ever have before. Which is why I’m writing this blog and sharing it with you.  Together we are strong and certainly apart we would never have what we have today.  Our most prised possession, our family.  To me family is what matters most and having a loving, caring, patient and meaningful marriage just brings it all together.

To that end I want to simply say Happy Anniversary to my lovely wife.  Thank you for putting up with me for all these years and may we have another 23 so that we can see our grandchildren and possibly great-grandchildren have what we have as well.  Here’s to Black Love.

An Ode to a Cup of Coffee

In About Me, Life's Quirks on 18/05/2012 at 09:49

When I awake every morning there is nothing more pleasurable than the thought of a piping hot cup of coffee.  My typical morning starts with herding cats aka my three school aged children out of the house so that they can make it to school on time.

Typically I’m in a bit of a sleepy daze when my wife leaves for work, since she’s typically the first person to go.  But I’m up, half awake and half I don’t know what.  But then the light bulb goes off in my head, the image of a cup of coffee emerges and I’m excited.

Unfortunately, this cup is not real.  It’s a figment of my imagination that I must find a way to bring to fruition.  Now if you love coffee as much as I do, you will find a way to take this image from your head and make it real.  Preferably in the largest cup you can find in your cupboard.

That’s when I hear a voice faintly calling from behind the cupboard door, in a voice sounding a lot like Mickey Mouse saying “pick me, I’m ready to be filled with dark roasted ambrosia.”  Low and behold it is my Mickey Mouse coffee cup anxiously awaiting its divine purpose to be fulfilled.

At that point, my eyes are a flutter with excitement and the expectation of that first cup, the most important cup of the day.  And then it happens.  Like the joy of a breeze on a hot day in July, I take my first sip.  Oh but that’s not enough, I take another, and another, and another and then I arrive at that restful place of supreme joy.

This thing called coffee has awaken the lion inside.  Has prepared him for the day ahead and he is happy.  If you have suck a love for coffee feel free to add your commentary on personal ode to this simple pleasure of life.

RANDOM THOUGHT: Why Does My Free Thinking Bother You So Much?

In About Me, Consider This, Culture, Philosophies and Opinions on 16/05/2012 at 11:29

Do I threaten you because I question, seek understanding and clarity before accepting? Is it really so scary to you that I reject many things taught to me as a child, now that I’m an adult educated, exposed and experienced enough to know better? What’s the problem?  Or are you simply threaten by the fact that I am more confident in what I KNOW than you are in what you say you believe?

Fascism is DANGEROUS no matter the form, big or small, governmental or one-on-one. Thought control is DANGEROUS.  Limited perspective is DANGEROUS.  Unwillingness to accept new realities and adapt is DANGEROUS.  It limits the progression of our species.  There is absolutely NOTHING dangerous about Free Thinking. Free thinking is liberty, justice, takes courage and speaks to the true concept and notion of FREEDOM.

If I have to be controlled by those limited in perspective in order for you to feel comfortable in my presence I suggest you move on.  Find others who share you limited world-view.  Because that’s not a freedom I’m interested in, it’s slavery and I WILL NEVER BE A SLAVE as long I live.  I will fight you and those who think like you with EVERY weapon at my disposal.

Now that we understand where each other stands.  The line in the proverbial sand is drawn and it’s time to do battle.  In the words of my favourite Marvel Comic character Thor, “Have at thee”!!!  That’s all, carry on…

The Geek In Me. My Next Mobile Phone.

In About Me on 02/05/2012 at 20:30

This Video Says it all.

Technical Specs (iPhone, who?)

Welcome To My World!

In About Me on 02/05/2012 at 14:43

There is so much to talk about and never enough time to get it all in.  This WordPress site has one sole purpose, to curate and share information from various sources.  It will include my articles that have been published from a number of online magazines and websites as well as articles written by others which interest me.  I hope you enjoy the journey as much as I do.  Indeed Dádìsì does speak.  Welcome to my world.  What say YE?!!!